So who is this work for?

Anyone. Honestly. Me. You. Him. Her. Them. If you…

• do not know how to put up healthy boundaries out of self and communal care

• feel disconnected from yourself, others and this world 

• identify with a fear of intimacy and vulnerability

• are nervous about your body appearance- from ‘lights out’ sex to body dysmorphia

• know you are not having the sex you want but don’t know what you want either

• know what you want but don’t know how to say it

• are intimidated by the use of toys and wants to get over that

• feel like you have to use toys to climax and want to broaden your repertoire

• have “dysfunction” like PE, ED, vaginismus and vulvodynia

• have had surgery and now have unexplainable pain and changes in sensation 

• have a mental, emotional or physical disability and do not know how to make sex accessible to your needs 

• have a chronic illness or pain and/or do not know how to optimize accessible intimacy

• have been traumatized by the impact of medicalization on your body

• have been traumatized by the impact of religion on your sex life

• have been traumatized by the impact of the patriarchy on your body autonomy

• have been traumatized by how racism is projected onto your body and sexuality

• notice that your body and sexuality have changed postpartum

• want to know how to access pleasure after your body has changed with age

• are experiencing menopause and want to revive the juice and meet your “now” body anew 

• are desiring to understand and make your menstrual cycle more easeful

• are trying to better understand your partner’s body and/or cycles 

• feel what your body does or does not do is a mystery to you

• can’t slow down when it is time to rest

• are stressed

• have any other description, curiosity, issue, life circumstance…. if you are human!

Sexological Bodywork is a somatic therapy designed to assist clients in learning more deeply about their lived experiences through body based practices. Somatic comes from “Soma” or “the body in it’s wholeness.” In my practice, the body is defined in the very inclusive terms of somaticist Staci K. Haines. Body refers to sensations, emotions, internal narratives, relational stances, actions and non-actions.

What this means in practice is that the scope of the modality covers everything from the overt sexual, such as difficulties enjoying a specific act (vaginismus or ejaculatory choice for example) to all of the mental and emotional aspects of relating, like healthy boundaries and communication. This is not work dependent on partnership and can be rich and gratifying for solo folks to explore and learn their systmes just for them.

Unlike treatment modalities where something is done to us intended to fix, Sexological Bodywork is guided by The Wheel of Consent (Betty Martin) and moves at the pace of trust (adrienne maree brown, “Emergent Strategy.”)

We rewire and create new learning pathways led by our curiosity, letting the healing unfold at a pace that can be integrated.